Tips for happiness

“Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.” – Roy T. Bennett

You are a slave to stress.

I can relate. Stress crushed my life, my relationships, and my dreams.

I had a house, a kind and caring family, a good job, and money in the bank. I was miserable

Nobody knew just how bad my mental health was. I lied to my friends and family whenever they asked how I was doing.

I cancelled plans, I stopped going out, and I avoided phone calls and text messages.

My stress level was insanely high.

I got physically sick, I lost my job, and my savings disappeared. I was at my absolute lowest.

Thankfully I got lucky. I found a way back and a way out from under the dark clouds.

Today, stress still lingers in my body like the ghost of my dark past. But now I know how to manage it. Let me explain to you how you can manage it too.

Stop obsessing about your difficulties.

The more you talk about your difficulties, the more likely you will suffer from depression.

Of course, it's beneficial to talk about your feelings. However, endlessly concentrating on your troubles does not accomplish anything.

I very rarely discuss my difficulties with anyone since few understand them. This motivates me to seek solutions rather than passively ponder topics that may stress me out.

If you're lucky enough to have helpful pals, ask their advice. What matters is that you don't merely complain about your problems; instead, you take action.

Give yourself presents.

You're being quite harsh on yourself.

Success is something you take for granted. Worst of all, you exaggerate failure.

When you've completed a task, you go on without hesitation. If you don't, you mentally torture yourself. You chastise, diminish, and deny yourself.

I've been there before. I'm aware that this is self-destructive.

Reward yourself for achieving your goals. According to research, when you are rewarded for an activity, you are more inclined to repeat it. This is referred to as a positive feedback loop. It works far better than punishment.

Without the satisfaction that comes with success, the only conclusion is stress.

The only conclusion if you gain satisfaction from achievement without stress from failure is happiness.

Make use of poor habits to your advantage.

I used to flee from issues. When stressed, I'd abandon whatever I was working on and turn to escape.

You may have had similar experiences.

Escapism can include overeating, eating unhealthy foods, watching TV, surfing the Internet, smoking, and drinking. They develop detrimental behaviours over time.

Make use of escapism as an anchor.

Choose healthful alternatives like meditation, stretching, inspiring lectures, resting, or mild exercise.

Do thirty seconds of an alternate first, then flee.

Assume you're upset with your partner. You believe that eating junk food will help you relax. Before that, take thirty seconds to meditate. Then you're free to enjoy yourself.

Do this for the next month. Then, gradually increase beneficial habit time until it drowns out the bad.

Let out your rage.

Don't attempt to seem totally calm all of the time. You must express uncomfortable emotions, such as rage.

Discuss your dissatisfaction with your pals. Write down your anger and evaluate it rationally. You can even face the source of your annoyance directly.

Remember to keep your anger in check. Throw tantrums or rant on the spur of the moment. Express it as a problem-solving strategy.

This also applies to other challenging emotions, such as sadness. It is beneficial to express these "bad" feelings.

Achieve high heights by allowing yourself to suck a lot.

I've come to terms with my failures. I have no choice. Otherwise, I'd be ruined and deterred from ever pursuing anything again.

Some people are incapable of accepting mistakes. Everything must be flawless from the outset. They believe that people will look down on them if they appear to be defective.

These individuals are frequently stressed.

The happiest and most successful individuals strive for advancement. They like imperfections and mistakes because they perceive them as opportunities to improve.

Take notes from these folks.

Set aspirational ambitions while maintaining realistic standards. Don't evaluate yourself based on the outcomes of your activities. Consider them as feedback and work to improve from there.

You can do ANYTHING you want, but perhaps not EVERYTHING that you want

You don't have enough time or energy to do all you desire.

Things are always left undone, and you beat yourself up over it. This causes anxiety.

Think about what is genuinely essential to you. Kill the rest without remorse.

You gain more time and control over your life while making significant progress.

I am only concerned with my work, my family, and my happiness. Other goals, such as becoming a photographer and swimming, have been put on hold since they are comparably minor.

Embrace minimalism

I'm cleaning up my place. It is now spotless and large. I feel more comfortable, focused, and in command while inside.

Clutter, according to psychologists, competes for your attention and overloads your brain. This causes tension and even impairs your capacity to think.

Get rid of this unnecessary garbage as soon as possible.

Begin by throwing away one thing every day for two months. It's simple and teaches you to emotionally disconnect from your belongings. You can later extend to other rubbish stuff daily.

Stand up straight

Why? Because your posture is directly related to your emotions and conduct.

You feel less anxious when you posture your body naturally and comfortably.

Furthermore, seeming confident makes you feel more powerful and in command. Stress is countered with confidence.

Study books on proper posture and body language. These abilities not only reliably relieve stress, but they also maintain your body healthy.

Clear everything from your overburdened mind.

You become angry, malfunction, and eventually collapse when your mind is overburdened.

Get your mental clutter out of your head and into one spot.

Observe your thoughts for five to fifteen minutes and allow knowledge to re-emerge in your mind.

You'll be shocked at how much information appears. Things to do, something to wait for, open loops, innovative ideas, long-term goals, and much more.

Write down anything that comes to mind, no matter how little it may appear.

This helps you arrange your life and clears even the slightest mental clutter. You'll find it easier to take action when you see everything on paper. Life gets less stressful.

For this, I personally prefer pen and paper. A complex to-do system is also helpful, but avoid devoting too much effort. You may cause tension in the process.

Take a cue from the Chinese.

People who are under stress are masters of exaggeration. They exaggerate every minor issue.

You cannot see the larger picture when you are engrossed in an issue. Then you start exaggerating and freaking out.

"The spectator's eyes are always clear," says a Chinese proverb.

Request an honest assessment of your concerns from a buddy. This will most likely assist you in recognising when something isn't a significant concern. Learn from bystanders and do an objective analysis of your challenges. Then you can identify things for what they are and take appropriate action.

Laugh: deal with the catastrophe with levity.

I enjoy watching comedy. They provide me with a small respite from my concerns.

I had a realisation one day.

Consider the following scenarios: failing a job interview, being fired, being jobless, being robbed, being sued, and being rejected by the opposite sex.

Disasters. But in comedies, they're all hilarious. Every problem contains a humorous element.

Perhaps you burnt your dinner. Maybe you dropped your phone down the toilet. Start laughing!

You'll drastically change your outlook after you've mastered this. You'll look for the good in every scenario and approach issues enthusiastically.

You Can Turn Stress Into Happiness Right Now

It's not unthinkable. It has been done by many people.

Choose one lesson that appeals to you, conduct some study on it, and then act.

You've allowed stress to control you for far too long. Now is the moment to start living differently.

Do you want to be paralysed by stress? Or do you wish to change your life for the better?

You can choose.

We all need a helping hand from time to time. Please share this post with as many people as possible. You never know who might need it.

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